Men who exhibit toxic "Me Two" behavior are not just predators, but victims, says leadership coach and spiritual teacher Wendy C. Williams.
They are victims that unconsciously act out society's unacknowledged expectations for their gender. Because of these unspoken norms, they subjugate both women and the female aspect of themselves. They simply haven't learned to express emotions in appropriate ways, she says.
"As a society, we’ve put men in a box that says that in order to be masculine, you have four acceptable emotional states: angry, neutral, happy (for short periods of time and for good reasons), and sad (for short periods of time and for good reasons). Men are not allowed to otherwise express themselves, and if they do," they're vilified.
"The fact that woman are not safe in society is related to this topic. What I see happening in society is that there is an unspoken societal norm that says that certain bad behavior by men should not be talked about, acknowledged or punished. That's why the Me Too movement is so radical and polarizing."
In this podcast, Williams shares how taking an inventory of her own relationships with men broadened her understanding of the difference between what she calls Divine Masculinity and Toxic Masculinity.
She shares her belief that this is a "humanity problem," and not just a male one.
"Work needs to be done by both men and women. Women need to be stronger and step out of the victim role." They also "need to stop supporting ridiculous social norms for men that are both inappropriate and harmful."